It’s
a little strange addressing people that don’t really exist yet, but I’ll give
it a shot.
Hey
Class of 2018. I know you must be super nervous/excited/scared since we’re only
a couple of weeks into the school year. I know you are, I’ve been there. The
first weeks I was nervous about classes, excited about “college life,” and
scared about things like making friends and failing classes. It is hard going
into a strange place where you don’t know anyone (maybe you know a few people,
but I came in not knowing anyone). I was
super nervous about my roommate (I had only met her once over lunch). What if
she wasn’t clean? What if she was rude? What if she was just crazy? I was
terrified of my classes. I had never had to study in high school and was worried
that I wouldn’t have the study skills that were necessary to pass my classes.
The day before move-in, I was a nervous wreck.
Once
I got here, I knew everything would be alright. My roommate was fantastic and
we are just alike. My classes weren’t scary at all and I made an A on my first
Theory test. Worrying is natural, but sometimes so unnecessary. As for friends,
that was the easiest part. Not only did I get super close to my roommate and a
couple of other girls on our hall, but the music people really form a bond. We’re
all in practically the same classes, so we see each other constantly. It was so
nice to have people that were going through the same things I was, having the
same stresses I was having, and taking the same classes. All of us are like a
little family. I know if I really needed anything, I could ask any one of those
girls and they would do whatever they could for me.
One
thing I didn't worry about that I maybe should have been stress. I never
realized just how much stress I would be under. I really wanted to be involved
in a lot of things. I was in three ensembles, taking a full hour lesson on two
instruments, and had a job. I really had to look at what I was doing and align
my priorities. Did I really want to try to do two instruments? I also had a bad
problem with my schoolwork. I would stay up so late some nights doing homework
that others I wouldn't be able to hold my eyes open and I would fall asleep
trying to get work done. I continued my habit of procrastination from high
school and realized quite quickly that I could not continue with that habit. It
was hard to break the habit, but it is so worth it. I couldn’t spend another
night staying up until two am writing two papers and doing a worksheet. It’s
just not an efficient use of my time. With such limited time already, I learned
to use my remaining time in a productive way. If I had a paper due, I would do
it on a night when I didn’t have much other homework, or I would do a little at
a time. It’s still hard to keep up with. Occasionally, I find myself waiting until
the last minute on an assignment that I’m absolutely dreading, but I had to put
my big girl panties on and just do it.
One
thing that I’ve learned (that’s very important to my sanity) is that I have to
have “fun time.” I have to allow myself to have time to hang out with friends
and have a good time. Almost every weekend a couple of girls on my hall and I
have movie night. We all really like chick flicks, so we watch a few of those
every night. It’s not only a good way to relax and de-stress, but it allows us
to have good bonding time. We also go shopping (even though I shouldn’t be
spending the money). It’s just so relaxing. We even have sleepovers occasionally
where a girl down the hall comes and sleeps in me and my roommate’s room. It’s
so nice to get away from all the stress and relax.
All-in-all, my advice is: don’t overextend yourself, don’t
procrastinate, and allow yourself some relaxation time. And I promise,
everything is going to be okay.
All of this is so true! Studying is something I need to get used to as well, and I'm quickly learning procrastination is NOT an option, haha.
ReplyDeleteYour advice is what I'm starting to learn in a nutshell. The "everything's going to be ok" is a big relief. Sometime people just need to hear that or in my case read it. If you talk to our future lil's make sure you say that.
ReplyDeleteSo true, so true... you pretty much summeed it up! Very well thought out :)
ReplyDeleteThis is all very good, Katie. I like the advice you give, and your writing style is very natural and fluid. It sounds like you're getting a handle on how to deal with longer-term assignments, which is great. You know, there have been times in my life when I've been scared about a new stage of my life (starting different schools, moving abroad, having a baby), and what always helps me is remembering that, well, lots of folks not nearly as smart and capable as me have managed just fine. You will manage just fine. Always. :-)
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